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sunkcost.dating
Running total since
Entries
64
Dates
44 hrs
Travel
19 hr 5 min
Total time
63 hr 5 min
Cost
$2,999.27
Cost per date hour
$68.17
Recoverable
none

Latest term in the lexicon

decentering men

verb phrase

Stated meaning
Choosing to organize one's time, attention, and sense of worth around something other than romantic relationships with men.
Operating meaning
A sound principle that the video format keeps returning to the center, since each post about not thinking about him requires about 40 minutes of editing footage about not thinking about him.
Entry 043

orbiting

verb, present participle

A read receipt with no message attached, filed daily, which confirms that the account is still active and the conversation is not.

Entry 042

She asked me to a concert in Washington state after her friends had already declined it. I looked up flights and a hotel for a last-minute weekend and said no on July 27. In 98 days it is the only thing I priced before agreeing to it, and the only one that closed at $0.00.

Entry 041

On July 25 she drove 90 minutes and I drove 0. It is the only date in the file where my travel column reads zero, and it reads zero because she came to my house.

Entry 040

Autopsy · Subject M.

The towel

210 minutes at my house, $58.43 of groceries, and the first 90 minutes of road in this arc that were not mine. One claim settled in kind.

Entry 039

situationship

noun

An arrangement in which each party receives the services of a partner at the rate of an acquaintance, with the definition postponed until one of them needs to leave without owing an explanation.

Entry 038

healing era

noun phrase

A status flag that can be set while remaining active on the apps, which converts any slow reply or canceled plan into a documented stage of personal growth.

Entry 037

Autopsy · Subject M.

I leave space for disappointments

120 minutes at a speakeasy, $134.74. She leaves space for disappointments, and she asked me to fly to another state with her on August 15.

Entry 036

high value

adjective phrase

A pricing tier the speaker assigns to themselves before any buyer has entered the store, followed by a list of what the other party must bring in order to qualify for a viewing.

Entry 035

16 days in another state, with the daily texting unbroken the whole way through. The first claim against the cards came on day 11 and settled at $846.10, for an overnight that took place 1 state away from me.

Entry 034

soft life

noun phrase

A lifestyle presented as the absence of effort, which requires a budget, a booking app, and a considerable amount of effort to photograph.

Entry 033

Autopsy · Subject M.

Option C

$846.10 on an overnight I did not attend, against a policy I wrote with no limit of liability and she redeemed 11 days early.

Entry 032

masculine energy

noun phrase

A request that someone make all of the decisions, issued in a form that leaves the requester free to overrule each one of them.

Entry 031

The birthday box took 420 minutes to build across July 2 and 3. At the time I handed it over I had spent 1,350 minutes in her company, so the manufacture ran to 31 percent of the relationship.

Entry 030

love bombing

noun, also verb

In casual usage, a label for any interest that exceeds the prevailing market rate of indifference, which makes a prompt reply a documented risk factor.

Entry 029

Autopsy · Subject M.

Underwritten

No date held. 16 cards for 16 days apart, 7 hours of manufacture, $84.51, and an insurance policy written by me against my own future failures.

Entry 028

wife material

noun phrase

A pre-qualification rating issued by a man who has not decided whether to apply, which lets him run a hiring process while describing it as a compliment.

Entry 027

Autopsy · Subject M.

Size 4.5

240 minutes at a mall, $33.23, the cheapest hour on file. One figure in this arc was independently measured and it was wrong.

Entry 026

frame

noun

A commitment to never visibly reacting to anything, maintained at great internal expense, which turns ordinary conversation into a contest where the first person to laugh at a joke has lost.

Entry 025

I offered to collect her on April 25 and again on June 28. Both times she preferred to meet at the venue, and both evenings ended with 2 cars in the same lot.

Entry 024

Autopsy · Subject M.

Equidistant

180 minutes, $207.44, and the first venue in 7 dates that was not on her side of the map. Cumulative spend passes $1,000.