hopeless romantic
noun phrase, usually said of oneself
A self-description issued in advance, so that every gesture over budget is filed as temperament.
- Entries
- 106
- Dates
- 66.28 hrs
- Travel
- 25 hr 12 min
- Total time
- 91 hr 28 min
- Cost
- $4,011.48
- Cost per date hour
- $60.52
- Recoverable
- none
Latest term sighted
soft-cap dating
noun phrase
- Stated meaning
- Pausing new outreach to concentrate on one person while keeping at most one other conversation open, so that compatibility can be judged without losing every other lead.
- Operating meaning
- One person in focus and one conversation kept warm in case the focus does not hold, which is a rotation of 2 described as restraint.
benching
verb, usually in the phrase 'being benched'
A date kept on the calendar and out of play, so that the person holding it can decide later and the person waiting is told only that the day has moved.
the bare minimum
noun phrase
A floor set after the fact, just above whatever was done.
leading
noun, from the verb
Assigns every decision on the evening to one party, and every cost with it, and teaches the other party that accepting them is a virtue.
multi-dating
noun
The decision of whom to see again, postponed by spreading it across several people until the calendar makes it.
Autopsy · Subject F.
The right match
No fifth date held. She cancelled it by text on the day, in 55 words, and I answered in 15. The account closes at $630.88, 815 minutes and 16 days.
Autopsy · Subject F.
Planning for the future
105 minutes at an ice cream shop, $19.56, the first date on file proposed and placed by the other party alone. She arrived 33 minutes late. I said nothing.
F. said in her experience men are the more emotional party, and I agreed. On October 4, in my car outside her home, my evidence was my own relationships, in most of which the more emotional party had been me, whether or not I said so.
Autopsy · Subject F.
The more emotional party
360 minutes at a Wu-Tang Clan concert and in my car, $195.66, 12 questions from me and 15 from her, the most on file. A fourth date was set that night.
Autopsy · Subject E.
Up front
No second date held. I cancelled it by text the day before, in 37 words, and was answered in 7. The account closes at $46.57, 165 minutes and 18 days.
Autopsy · Subject E.
One minute late
165 minutes at a country bar in Chandler, $46.57, 12 questions from me and 10 from her. I arrived 1 minute late. A second date was agreed that night.
serial dating
noun, usually in the phrase 'serial dater'
Exclusivity on a short lease: one person at a time, each account closed before the next evening is held, at a turnover the advice columns file as a warning.
fashionably late
adjective phrase
Lateness declared as a trait, which turns a delay into a personality and leaves the early party nothing to object to except the other person.
Autopsy · Subject F.
Lagavulin 16
140 minutes at a whisky bar, $249.43, 8 questions each. I chose the venue to test her finding on scotch. She tried mine. A third date was agreed.
Autopsy · Subject F.
An acquired taste
210 minutes at an art museum and its restaurant, $166.23, 13 questions from her, 12 from me. She arrived 19 minutes late. A second date was agreed that night.
meant to be
verb phrase, passive
Hands the decision to fate, so that neither party owns the effort it takes or the exit.
unmatching
verb
A closure performed with a tap, which deletes the thread on both ends and requires no sentence, so the party ending it is spared the only part of ending it that costs anything.
On September 9 I unmatched D. That closes the third account on this site inside 6 days and the fourth closed by me. The first ran 120 days and $2,570.94 and ended in a message I sent on August 13.
Of the $148.33 spent on September 8, $106.33 was 2 tickets to a band I had already decided to see. It is the only expenditure in this file that went on paying out after the reason for it stopped.
Phone checks recorded across the 2,505 minutes in person before September 8: 3. Phone checks recorded across the 135 minutes of September 8: 7, 6 of them hers and 1 mine. The rate moves from 1 every 835 minutes to 1 every 19.