On July 1 I told her I had taken myself off the market and cancelled the apps. On September 7, 68 days later, I opened the fourth account on this site with a message I sent from one, and the date was held the following evening.
- Entries
- 106
- Dates
- 66.28 hrs
- Travel
- 25 hr 12 min
- Total time
- 91 hr 28 min
- Cost
- $4,011.48
- Cost per date hour
- $60.52
- Recoverable
- none
Latest term sighted
soft-cap dating
noun phrase
- Stated meaning
- Pausing new outreach to concentrate on one person while keeping at most one other conversation open, so that compatibility can be judged without losing every other lead.
- Operating meaning
- One person in focus and one conversation kept warm in case the focus does not hold, which is a rotation of 2 described as restraint.
Autopsy · Subject D.
Six and zero
135 minutes at a concert, $148.33, and a question count of 6 asked and 0 returned, 3 days after the only one on this site that ran the other way.
the spark
noun phrase
The one line on the form that takes no evidence, which makes it the only line capable of closing an account that every other line says to keep open.
On September 6 I sent the message that closed C.’s account, a day after 180 minutes that cost $248.00 and produced no disclaimers and no rationalizations. It is the only account on this site closed while both parties were on good terms, and the only one that has produced anything since.
Dates on this site that record travel: 13. Rows where both parties drove the same distance: 2, June 28 and September 5. In 9 of the other 11 my figure is 90 minutes.
One phone call, 60 minutes, placed before the September 5 date and not counted on its form. The previous arc ran 120 days and 11 dates and settled every one of them by message. This is the first line item on this site for a telephone call.
Flowers on September 5: $8.00, on a bill of $248.00. Flowers on April 20: $15.00 for a dozen roses, which spent 180 minutes in a parking lot while the date they were bought for ran on inside.
The introduction to C. came from a matchmaker neither of us is a client of, and I contacted her on August 31. The fees line on that form reads $0.00, and it is the only introduction in this file made by somebody who does this for a living.
Autopsy · Subject C.
Ten and fifteen
180 minutes at The Canal Club, $248.00, and the first question count on this site to come out uneven. She asked 15. I asked 10. I closed it the next day.
taking it slow
verb phrase
A pace announced as policy, which sets the terms of a negotiation nobody has opened and tells the other party what their request would have been answered with.
hang
noun, also verb
An invitation with its content left out, so that what was offered can be established after the answer arrives.
Cost per hour at a dive bar on September 3: $32.00, against $67.17 across everything this ledger has recorded. The 2,265 minutes and $2,570.94 that came before it were spent assembling conditions under which somebody would pay attention, and the condition here was a friend answering that the two of us were not together.
The column for what the other party contributed has been filled 16 times on this site and reads $0.00 on all 16. On September 3 it could not be filled at all, because it is the one evening I booked nothing and reached for nothing, and an absence is not a zero.
At 11:30 pm on September 3 I was asked a 1-word question, “free?”, and answered it with 44 words: an attraction disclosed, a pace stated, and a policy on one-night stands. That is 3 terms of an agreement covering a transaction nobody had proposed, and it stood for about 90 seconds, until her reply.
Autopsy · Subject B.
Was asking to hang
60 minutes at a dive bar, $32.00, and a 6 and 6 question count off an evening that was not a date. 3 outings proposed, 0 held.
14 of the 16 cards are still unredeemed. I wrote them, I underwrote them, and since August 18 there is no arrangement left for them to attach to. They carry no expiry date.
The message that ended the first arc was sent on the afternoon of August 13, by me, on day 115 of 120. The form is filed for day 120, 5 days later, and until this line it was the only place in the file that named August 13.
Autopsy · Subject A.
Some opportunities don't come twice
No date held. The account closes on day 120 at $2,570.94, 14 unredeemed policies, and a 1-year subscription used for 7 days.
emotionally unavailable
adjective phrase
A closing diagnosis that turns a mismatch into a condition, locates the condition in one person, and spares both people a conversation about the specific Thursday it ended.
Statements in which she accurately described what she was going to do: 14. The first arrived on the second date and the second on the third. After the evening of May 30, which produced 4 more, I held 6 further dates and spent $1,758.00.