Autopsy · Subject H.
Dynamic opposites
147 minutes at a brewery, $71.67, 9 questions from her and 6 from me, 4 phone checks, all hers, all on call. She closed it at 12:48 pm the next day.
- Entries
- 106
- Dates
- 66.28 hrs
- Travel
- 25 hr 12 min
- Total time
- 91 hr 28 min
- Cost
- $4,011.48
- Cost per date hour
- $60.52
- Recoverable
- none
Latest term sighted
soft-cap dating
noun phrase
- Stated meaning
- Pausing new outreach to concentrate on one person while keeping at most one other conversation open, so that compatibility can be judged without losing every other lead.
- Operating meaning
- One person in focus and one conversation kept warm in case the focus does not hold, which is a rotation of 2 described as restraint.
Autopsy · Subject G.
Perfect
No second date held. Her last message was 1 word, on October 11, and neither of us sent another. The account closes at $263.09, 210 minutes and 36 days.
the cardinal rule
noun phrase, in full 'the cardinal rule of relationships'
A ranking of two people by how little each admits to wanting, so that the strongest position in a couple is the one nearest the door.
just not that into you
phrase, used as a verdict, usually after 'he's'
Writes off an account on the evidence of its activity, conceding that some interest exists and ruling the amount insufficient, usually on a summary prepared by the party who will be relieved by the ruling.
Dutch treat
noun, also adverb
Each party paying their own share, which closes the bill at the table and opens a second account in what the offer to pay was meant to say.
buying temperature
noun phrase, also 'buying temp'
A customer's readiness to sign, read off a date, so that every sign of interest is logged as progress toward a close.
Payers
noun, plural, a defined term in Match Group's annual report
The users a dating company earned money from that month, counted on a line of their own, which makes everyone else on the app what their money bought access to.
beige flag
noun
A partner's harmless habit entered in the record as a finding, so that the review of a person runs to items that bear on nothing.
centering men
verb phrase
A life's plans allocated against one open position, so that the search for a partner is budgeted ahead of everything it was meant to sit beside, and every line is dated from an acquisition that has no date.
relational equity
noun phrase, also 'relationship equity'
Past spending held as a claim on future loyalty, against a counterparty who never signed for it.
the rules
noun, plural, a book title used as the name of its method
A 35-item schedule of things not done, run toward marriage on a deadline, in which interest is shown by what is declined: the first call, the late invitation, the end of the evening.
loud looking
noun phrase, also verb, as in “singles are loud looking”
Telling a match at the outset what you want, a practice 1 sentence long that the dating apps have renamed 3 times since 2022 and announced as new each time.
low effort
adjective phrase, also written 'low-effort'
Effort measured by the party who feels it is missing, against a quantity nobody has stated.
princess treatment
noun phrase
A list of courtesies kept as a standard, so that each one done is a line delivered and each one missed is a line outstanding.
attachment style
noun phrase, usually with secure, anxious or avoidant
A forecast taken from a quiz and issued on an early date, which explains how the relationship will fail before there is one.
toxic
adjective, also in the phrase 'my toxic trait'
A hazard label applied in advance, usually by the hazard, so that whatever follows has been disclosed.
exclusive
adjective, usually in the phrase 'going exclusive'
An agreement to stop seeing other people that stops short of a relationship, so that both parties have given something up and neither has been given a title.
reciprocity
noun
A balance that both partners are told to maintain and neither is supposed to be seen calculating.
Autopsy · Subject G.
Do you need money
210 minutes across 3 venues, $263.09, 10 questions each. At the check she asked whether I needed money. I said no, and paid for all 3.
matching energy
verb phrase, usually 'match my energy'
A rule under which each party waits to be shown what to return, so that the level can hold or fall and never rise.