Autopsy · Subject E. ·
Up front
No second date held. I cancelled it by text the day before, in 37 words, and was answered in 7. The account closes at $46.57, 165 minutes and 18 days.
This report closes the account of the subject referred to here as E., on Saturday, October 3, the day the second date was set for. I cancelled it by text message the day before. No date took place and nothing was spent.
The account opened on September 15, with a message she sent me, and ran 18 days. It held 1 date, on September 17, at a country bar in Chandler, for 165 minutes and $46.57.
Summary of charges
- Dates held: 0
- Duration: 0 minutes
- Out-of-pocket costs: $0.00
- Amount requested of E.: $0.00
- Follow-up: none
Final, this arc: $46.57 across 1 date, 165 minutes in person and 18 days. All subjects: $3,461.50 across 3,155 minutes in person.
The second date
The second date was requested by me on the night of September 17, by text, after I got home. She said yes. It was set for the week of September 21.
It was rescheduled twice, once by me on September 19 and once by her on the morning of September 21. She wrote again on September 28, for the first time in 7 days, and it was set for Saturday, October 3.
It was on the calendar for 15 days and was held on none of them.
October 2
On the day before, I sent this:
“Hey [name], I need to cancel tomorrow. I’ve realized I’m not feeling a romantic connection and want to be upfront so neither of us wastes time. Really enjoyed meeting you, and I wish you all the best.”
She replied:
“Ok thank you for being up front”
Words sent: 37. Words received: 7. The name is withheld, as it is on every form here. Nothing else in either message is altered.
Positions disclosed: 1 and 0. Mine was the message. Hers acknowledged it and took no position of her own, which the row records as 0 and which was the whole of what had been asked of her.
Limits set: 1 and 0.
That is the fifth account on this site closed, and the fifth closed by me. A.’s closed on August 13, B.’s on September 3, C.’s on September 6, D.’s on September 9 and E.’s on October 3.
The reason
The message gives the reason as the absence of a romantic connection. That is accurate. I did not feel a romantic or physical attraction to her.
The conversation was good, and the form for September 17 says so in figures: 12 questions from me and 10 from her, 0 phone checks on either side in 165 minutes, and 4 of 5 columns balanced. The panel has 11 rows. None of them is attraction. The evening passed every test the form knows how to run, and the account was closed on the one figure I had never entered.
I’ve realized
The message says I’ve realized. It does not say when.
The evening it describes is September 17. That night I walked her to her car, hugged her and kissed her on the cheek, drove home, and asked her out again. The form filed for that night records the request as mine, and its follow-up field reads yes because I asked.
Between that request and this message there were 15 days, 2 reschedules, and 2 dates with F., on September 26 and September 28. On September 28, after E. had written to set October 3, I invited F. to a concert on October 4. Four days later I cancelled October 3.
The message says it was sent so that neither of us wastes time. The time it saves is 1 Saturday evening, hers and mine. The 15 days before it, the date was held open on my side while I opened a second account and booked it for the following night. The message does not account for those days, and the file does not have a column that would.
Rationalizations recorded: 0. The reason was given to her in writing and it is the same one entered here.
Final accounting
- Dates held: 1 of 2 agreed
- Arc length, first message to last: 17 days
- Out-of-pocket: $46.57
- Time in person: 165 minutes
- Cost per hour in person: $16.93
- Travel: 50 minutes of road between us, on 1 date
- Questions asked by me and by E.: 12 and 10
- Contributed by E.: $1.00, estimated by me
- Requested of E.: $0.00
- Reschedules: 1 mine, 1 hers
- Cancellations: 1, mine
It is the second smallest arc in the file by cost, after B.’s $32.00, which was not a date.
Costs
- Total: $0.00
Status
Corrected October 8, 2026. This form first dated the close October 2, the day the message was sent. The account was open while a date was set, and the date it cancelled was October 3, so the close is entered on that day. The messages, the figures and the 17 days from first message to last are unchanged.
The follow-up field reads none. Nothing is owed by either party.
One account is open, F.’s, with a date set for Sunday, October 4.
The account is closed. Recoverable: $0.00.
Reciprocity scorecard
| Line item | Narrator | Subject | Test | Basis |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Recorded, not counted | ||||
| Positions disclosed | 1 | 0 | not scored | quotation |
| Limits set | 1 | 0 | not scored | observed |
| Duration | 0 min | clock | ||
| Phone checks | 0 | observed | ||
| Cost | $0.00 | observed | ||
| Requested of the other party | $0.00 | |||
| Follow-up | none | |||
| Reciprocity Index | undefined | |||
| Columns measured | undefined | |||
| Columns chosen by | the narrator | |||
The index counts the rows above Recorded, not counted — one credit each, except the proposal and the venue, which answer one question between them and take a single credit for the pair. Columns measured counts those same rows against a different question, not a narrower one: whether an instrument or a person produced the figure. A basis marked † is a figure nobody measured.