Planning for the future

This report covers a fourth date with the subject referred to here as F., held on Monday, October 5, at 6:00 pm, at an ice cream shop in Phoenix. The date ran 105 minutes. The cost was $19.56, paid in full by me.

She proposed it, that day, because she is leaving town, and she chose the place. The date set for October 7 still stands. This one was added in front of it.

Summary of charges

• Duration: 105 minutes
• Travel, mine: 54 minutes, round trip
• Travel, F.’s: 20 minutes, round trip
• Questions asked by me: 5
• Questions asked by F.: 3
• Phone checks by F.: 1
• Phone checks by me: 0
• Out-of-pocket costs: $19.56. Ice cream.
• Amount contributed by F.: $0.00
• Amount requested of F.: $0.00
• Follow-up: yes at filing

Cost per hour in person: $11.18. This arc: $630.88 across 4 dates. All subjects: $3,676.72 across 3,620 minutes in person.

Her proposal

Nineteen forms in this file had recorded who proposed the date and who chose the venue. On every one of them I was in the proposal column. B. proposed twice on September 3, beside 1 proposal of mine, at a bar I had already walked into. A. chose the venue 3 times, on dates I proposed. On September 8 D. chose from a list of 2 that I wrote.

This is the first date on file proposed and placed by the other party alone.

The panel scores the 2 rows together and asks for one party in each. Across 4 dates with F. the pair has been filled by one party every time, 3 times by me and once by her. It fails tonight on her side, for the first time.

Minute 0: arrival

At 5:48 pm she texted to say she would be late. She did not say by how much.

I arrived at 6:06, 6 minutes late. On September 17 this file entered its first late arrival for me, by 1 minute. This is the second. She was not there.

At 6:29 I texted:

“So uhhh, how late you gonna be?”

She replied:

“I’m sorry, I am a minute away”

She arrived 3 minutes later, at 6:33. Thirty-three minutes after the time agreed, and 27 after me.

Neither of us mentioned it again.

The arrivals in this arc now read 19 minutes late on September 26, 11 on September 28, 20 against her own estimate on October 4, and 33 tonight. On September 26 her estimate was 10 minutes and she arrived 20 minutes after giving it. Tonight it was 1 minute and she arrived in 3. On September 26 she also said she is usually late. That disclaimer has been accurate on 4 of 4 dates.

A previous account

She told me about a recent relationship and how it ended. He did not listen to her when she disagreed with him. He was late picking her up from a grooming appointment, and it put her in a bad mood. [paraphrase]

I considered saying that her lateness has had the same effect on me. I did not say it.

Limits set: 0 and 0. One was drafted, by me, on the evening the other party supplied the precedent for it, and it was not sent.

The requested column on this form reads $0.00, as it has for all 6 subjects, and every form here has said that its value was mine alone to set. The column for what I ask of the other party’s time has no row on this panel. On October 5 it read 0 for the same reason.

Fuel

She told me she has run out of gas numerous times. She did not give a count, and I did not ask for one. She asked whether I ever had.

“No, in fact I filled up from half a tank on the way here tonight.”

“Why would you do that?”

“Planning for the future.”

She had no response.

Positions disclosed: 1 and 1. Hers was on the relationship that ended. Mine was on the fuel tank.

Planning for the future is the reason I gave. The ledger this form is entered in has recorded 3,620 minutes and $3,676.72 since April 20, every figure of it after the fact. It holds no forecast. The one plan on file is half a tank of fuel bought on the way to an ice cream shop, and it is not booked, because travel is entered in minutes.

Five and three

Questions asked: 5 by me, 3 by her.

Eighteen encounters on this site had recorded a question count before this one. This is the nineteenth, the sixth to come out uneven, and the third in my favor, after September 8 and September 17. The band on the question count is 50%, 3 is inside it, and the row balances.

Across 4 dates she has asked 39 questions and I have asked 37.

Phone checks: 1, hers, an incoming call she did not answer. It is the first phone check in this arc. The file now holds 11 phone checks in 3,620 minutes.

Minute 105: the car

I walked her to her car and kissed her, and asked her to let me know when she got home. Physical initiation: 1 and 0.

I texted when I got home. She messaged about 2 hours later.

Findings

Proposed the date and chose the venue: both hers. The first time on file. The split needs one party in each, and it fails.

Arrival: 6 minutes late, mine. 33 minutes late, hers. Her message said late, and her second message said 1 minute, against an actual 3.

Questions: 5 and 3.

Phone checks: 1, hers, unanswered.

Travel: 54 and 20, round trip. The band on the travel row is 40%, and 20 is outside it. The first travel row in this arc to fail.

Limits set: 0 and 0. One considered, by me.

Times run out of gas: numerous, hers, uncounted. Mine: 0.

Positions disclosed: 1 and 1.

Rationalizations recorded: 0.

Contributed by F.: $0.00. Requested of F.: $0.00.

Reciprocity: 1 of 5 columns balanced, the question count.

Costs

• Ice cream: $19.56
• Total: $19.56

Cost per hour in person: $11.18, against $60.94 across everything this ledger has recorded, this date included. It is the second cheapest hour in the file, after July 1, and $19.56 is the smallest figure on any form here that records a date held.

Running position, this arc: 4 of 5 dates held, $630.88 out of pocket, 815 minutes in person, 342 minutes of road between the 2 of us across 4 dates, $0.00 contributed by the other party and $0.00 requested of her.

Running position, all subjects: $3,676.72 out of pocket, 3,620 minutes in person.

Status

The follow-up field reads yes. The fifth date was set on October 4, for October 7, and was not moved by this one.

One account is open. Recoverable: $0.00.