Silences longer than 24 hours: 3. They ran 5 days in April and May, 4 days in early June, and 4 days again later the same month. I ended all 3.
- Entries
- 106
- Dates
- 66.28 hrs
- Travel
- 25 hr 12 min
- Total time
- 91 hr 28 min
- Cost
- $4,011.48
- Cost per date hour
- $60.52
- Recoverable
- none
Latest term sighted
soft-cap dating
noun phrase
- Stated meaning
- Pausing new outreach to concentrate on one person while keeping at most one other conversation open, so that compatibility can be judged without losing every other lead.
- Operating meaning
- One person in focus and one conversation kept warm in case the focus does not hold, which is a rotation of 2 described as restraint.
Her contribution across 11 dates: $0.00. The amount I asked her for across the same 11: $0.00. The column exists because I built the form, and I have entered the same figure into both halves of it 16 times and quoted only one of them.
Phone checks across 1,800 minutes in person: 3, all of them hers. Two were a shift she had missed and a child calling her. The third was on my couch while I cooked, and I am the one who wrote it down.
the talking stage
noun phrase
A holding account where attention is deposited daily at low interest, with withdrawals permitted at any time and no obligation to disclose the other accounts.
11 dates held, 11 of them proposed by me, and 0 of them agreed while both of us were in the room. Every one was settled by text, after the evening it would have been easiest to ask.
Arrival times, on the dates where they were recorded: me 15 minutes early, her 10 to 15 minutes late. On July 31 that put 30 minutes between us at a table booked for one time.
Autopsy · Subject A.
The delivery guy
No date held. $98.34 of Jamaican food, 45 minutes waiting in 2 mall parking lots, the first member of her family I have met, and 1 direct question answered in 1 word.
I bought a year of a couples app on August 3 so that we would have something to answer together, and she joined when I invited her. We used it daily for 7 days. The subscription runs to August 3, 2027.
Autopsy · Subject A.
The wrong potato
120 minutes at a grill in her area, $135.54. She raised the towel, called it odd, and named the opportunity I had already filed against myself.
She asked me to a concert in Washington state after her friends had already declined it. I looked up flights and a hotel for a last-minute weekend and said no on July 27. In 98 days it is the only thing I priced before agreeing to it, the only one I priced as a bill falling entirely on me, and the only one that closed at $0.00.
On July 25 she drove 90 minutes and I drove 0. It is the only date in the file where my travel column reads zero, and it reads zero because she came to my house.
Autopsy · Subject A.
The towel
210 minutes at my house, $58.43 of groceries, and the first 90 minutes of road in this arc that were not mine. One claim settled in kind.
situationship
noun
An arrangement in which each party receives the services of a partner at the rate of an acquaintance, with the definition postponed until one of them needs to leave without owing an explanation.
healing era
noun phrase
A status flag that can be set while remaining active on the apps, which converts any slow reply or canceled plan into a documented stage of personal growth.
Autopsy · Subject A.
I leave space for disappointments
120 minutes at a speakeasy, $134.74. She leaves space for disappointments, and she asked me to fly to another state with her on August 15.
16 days in another state, with the daily texting unbroken the whole way through. The first claim against the cards came on day 11 and settled at $846.10, for an overnight that took place 1 state away from me.
soft life
noun phrase
A lifestyle presented as the absence of effort, which requires a budget, a booking app, and a considerable amount of effort to photograph.
Autopsy · Subject A.
Option C
$846.10 on an overnight I did not attend, against a policy I wrote with no limit of liability and she redeemed 11 days early.
The birthday box took 420 minutes to build across July 2 and 3, the 2 days after I told her I had taken myself off the market. At the time I handed it over I had spent 1,350 minutes in her company, so the manufacture ran to 31 percent of the relationship.
love bombing
noun, also verb
In casual usage, a label for any interest that exceeds the prevailing market rate of indifference, which makes a prompt reply a documented risk factor.