Lexicon ·
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noun
- Stated meaning
- A quirk in a partner that is neither good nor bad, only noticeable.
- Operating meaning
- A partner's harmless habit entered in the record as a finding, so that the review of a person runs to items that bear on nothing.
- Origin
- From a TikTok video of May 2022 that used it for signs a person was boring. By February 2023 it meant an odd habit, neither good nor bad, and Oxford shortlisted it for Word of the Year 2023.
July 31, Firebird Grill. She raised the towel I had offered her on July 25, and said she thought it was odd that I had wanted to cover her up. The phrase was not used.
The term began as an insult. In May 2022 a TikTok user (opens in a new window) used it for behaviours that showed a person to be very boring, in a video captioned “beige is the new red and in other news dating apps are a wasteland.” By February 2023 it had gone neutral, and meant a habit that is “neither good nor bad, but it does draw attention.” The examples ran to dunking Oreos in water instead of milk, and to being afraid of astronauts.
The dictionaries entered it within the year. In October 2023 Cambridge’s new-words blog (opens in a new window) defined it as “a sign that someone you have started a romantic relationship with is a little strange or boring but not enough for you to end the relationship.” Oxford shortlisted it (opens in a new window) for its Word of the Year 2023 with both senses on file: a trait showing that a partner “is boring or lacks originality,” and also one “viewed as extremely characteristic, but not distinctly good or bad.” The word chosen that year was rizz.
Under load, the term extends the audit to evidence that proves nothing. Red was kept for defects and green for credentials, and both were findings that bore on a decision. Beige is the column for findings that do not, which a less thorough reviewer would have left unrecorded. Recording them anyway puts a person’s habits under review in full, with no threshold for materiality, and the review is often posted. The entry is offered as affection. By Cambridge’s definition it is also a note that the item was examined and, on this occasion, did not disqualify.
On July 25 I offered a towel, and I entered it that night as its own line, an exposure presented and covered. Six days later she reviewed the same 30 seconds across a table and called it odd. Both parties had recorded the trait, it was mine, and nobody ended anything over it, which is the whole review the term describes. Hers also held the finding the term leaves out. She put it to me that the moment had been an opportunity, and I had already entered it against myself.